Hey gang! It's been a while. I actually wrote this with 6 days to go before I became Mrs. Paaakaaaah. However, I didn't finish the post because that was the day that my world stopped. It was the day that my baby sis and my niece were involved in a car accident. I truly thank you all for all the phone calls, texts, and prayers. My sister has recovered well and my niece is recovering well. She is still a ham. To watch God move in her life has been nothing short of a miracle. Continue to pray for her speedy recovery. So today I'm going to piggy back off my friend's blog post. She posed the question Thoughts on love: where is it? You can check it out here. So here are my thoughts and personal experiences.
***DISCLAIMER: I am NOT a relationship expert. I do not know it all and am speaking from my own personal experiences. Mmmmkaaayy***
Ok now that that's out the way let's get to it. After my divorce, I couldn't fathom being in a relationship. I knew that some day I wanted to remarry but not anytime soon. This go round I did things much differently. First I dated myself. I got to know me a little better. I took myself out to eat, to the movies, to concerts, etc. Basically I started treating myself like I wanted to be treated by a potential mate. Next I started to study what a Godly woman looked like. I looked at Ruth and Naomi and Proverbs 31 and then finally 1 and 2 Timothy. I knew that I was a good wife in my previous marriage but I wanted to be better...well actually the best. So I began to emulate those things in which I studied. I also did a few bible studies with my teenage girls about the topics. I now realize and believe that it was this process that was preparing me to be found by my mate. Finally I prayed and I prayed and I prayed. I prayed that God would protect him and that He would start to move in his life. I prayed for a man that knew God, not just toting a bible and quoting scripture man but a man after God's heart. I also prayed that if my future husband didn't know God that he would have an open heart to receive God. Then I waited...well actually I didn't want a relationship and was becoming comfortable being by myself. It got lonely at times but at least I wasn't being hurt or cheated on. I was also willing to wait on the Lord this time around. Love takes a lot of work. It isn't self seeking, it's patient, it's kind, it's forgiving.
So where is the love? I believe that love is first found within you. Then that love resonates outward and when the right person comes along it will be contagious. That love is found in God's love. When you begin to understand who you are and you're aligned with God's will, He will definitely bless you with the desires of your heart. I don't know the exact location to find love because it found me at a local car lot. I thank God daily for His blessing of love. Not just His love but the love of my boo love. On September 21, he made me the happiest woman ever and here a little over a month later, the honey is still on the moon baby!
Until next time guys....
Love,
Doc J
