One Moment In Time: Wedding Day Memories

Hey Gang!

I have been writing this for a while now and now that I have my pics now I can finish! Woot Woot! So I want to first shout out all of my vendors for our day. You guys were amaze balls. The other amazing this was the majority of my vendors were Jackson State University Alums. It was pretty cool. Any who, let's get to it....

On September 21, 5:30 am, I awakened to hurry to my hair appointment. It was pouring raining at this time. My hairstyle was inspired by YouTube tutorial by MahoganyKnots.  My aunt Shannon hooked me up chile. My hair piece was the hair piece my step-mom wore her wedding day to my dad. Next was make-up by my boo Shari Wilson. Those who know me, know that I don't wear make up and I really don't like it. *shrugs* But my girl hooked me up. I wanted a natural look and then she asked if I wanted lashes. I laughingly declined but her and my mom talked me into it. Soooo...for the the first time in my life I wore lashes. It felt so weird at first but as time went by I got used to it.  We were all having a blast, laughing and joking getting dolled up. Next was to get the dress on. Lord, who knew that a wedding dress was so freaking heavy! I don't think I want to ever wear another one ever again in life. For serious! Then enters Carlyn Photography and the magic begins. These guys went above and beyond the call of duty and I am forever grateful. So here was the end result:

So it is time for me to walk over to the venue and I was hidden in the bathroom. My paw and I were stashed in the ladies bathroom and we talked and laughed. He told me how proud of me he was and that I did good. I got teary eyed but my inner thug stopped it. *giggles*

So the big moment begins. I didn't have any jitters. I was more nervous about tripping and falling in that heavy dress. I walked in to Brian McKnight's Still in Love. When I walked in, I was in awe. It was beautiful! I couldn't imagine that it would be that beautiful. Shout out to Gooch Services for the planning and decor.

 I look around I remember everyone that was there and who wasn't -_-. I then look at my boo and Lord does that man look good in a suit! Amen and hallelujah! I see him getting teary eyed and I'm all awwww but of course I hold on to my thug.

As my dad gives me away, boo whispers in my ear that I looked beautiful. *swoon*

The ceremony proceeds and all goes great.

 THEN, my sis, Ms. Kiana Day, sangs like the angels in heaven and even made our minister go hmph. Chile she sang the Lord's Prayer like no other and had everyone looking for the collection plate and the alter to lay their burdens on. Woo Chile!

We are finally pronounced husband and wife and we march out to Earth, Wind and Fire's September. The party begins and our DJ, DJ Phingaprint, is jamming to the fullest.

As I've written before, earlier that week, my baby sis and niece were in a really bad accident. The day of the wedding my niece was still in a coma in PICU. As the wedding party was being reintroduced to every one, I saw my dad rushing to where we were in the foyer. He tells me that my niece had just awakened. I told him to eat something and then go. It was such a joy to know that my niecey poo was awake. We are then introduced as Mr. and Mrs. Jeffery Parker II and shimmy in to Beyonce's Love on Top. We then have our first dance to Brian McKnight's Love of My Life.

 The food was amaze balls and the cakes....YAAAASSS!
Like the cake testing didn't do these cakes any justice. Thanks to Dream Cakes for an amazing job!

 We then started having a blast dancing and taking pics in the photo booth. Let me stop here and thank Mojo Photo Booth for being so sweet. They actually called after the wedding to check on my niece and offer encouraging words and prayers. They really don't know how much all of that meant to me.

Next was the sorority song! Shout out to my sorors of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. *Skee-Wee* We had a blast.

Next were the toasts. If my sis Stephanie Berry, my matron of honor, didn't have me losing all my thug. And the party kept going!

As I reflect on that day through pictures and videos, I must say it was the most beautiful day ever! I plan to have a small "redo" of the ceremony once my niece begins to walk again and I imagine it to be just as emotional. I want to thank everyone who helped our day to be so special. I thank those friends and family who ran last minute errands, who flew in early to help out, keep me calm, relax, etc.I love you guys dearly. Thanks to all my great vendors. Thanks to the best and funnest bridal party ever! Thanks to everyone who made our day special and memorable. Please enjoy a few pics from our day! Until next time....


Love,

Doc J Parker :)

Where is the love?

Hey gang! It's been a while. I actually wrote this with 6 days to go before I became Mrs. Paaakaaaah. However, I didn't finish the post because that was the day that my world stopped. It was the day that my baby sis and my niece were involved in a car accident. I truly thank you all for all the phone calls, texts, and prayers. My sister has recovered well and my niece is recovering well. She is still a ham. To watch God move in her life has been nothing short of a miracle. Continue to pray for her speedy recovery. So today I'm going to piggy back off my friend's blog post. She posed the question Thoughts on love: where is it? You can check it out here. So here are my thoughts and personal experiences.

***DISCLAIMER: I am NOT a relationship expert. I do not know it all and am speaking from my own personal experiences. Mmmmkaaayy***

Ok now that that's out the way let's get to it. After my divorce, I couldn't fathom being in a relationship. I knew that some day I wanted to remarry but not anytime soon. This go round I did things much differently. First I dated myself. I got to know me a little better. I took myself out to eat, to the movies, to concerts, etc. Basically I started treating myself like I wanted to be treated by a potential mate. Next I started to study what a Godly woman looked like. I looked at Ruth and Naomi and Proverbs 31 and then finally 1 and 2 Timothy. I knew that I was a good wife in my previous marriage but I wanted to be better...well actually the best. So I began to emulate those things in which I studied. I also did a few bible studies with my teenage girls about the topics. I now realize and believe that it was this process that was preparing me to be found by my mate. Finally I prayed and I prayed and I prayed. I prayed that God would protect him and that He would start to move in his life. I prayed for a man that knew God, not just toting a bible and quoting scripture man but a man after God's heart. I also prayed that if my future husband didn't know God that he would have an open heart to receive God. Then I waited...well actually I didn't want a relationship and was becoming comfortable being by myself. It got lonely at times but at least I wasn't being hurt or cheated on. I was also willing to wait on the Lord this time around. Love takes a lot of work. It isn't self seeking, it's patient, it's kind, it's forgiving. 

So where is the love? I believe that love is first found within you. Then that love resonates outward and when the right person comes along it will be contagious. That love is found in God's love. When you begin to understand who you are and you're aligned with God's will, He will definitely bless you with the desires of your heart. I don't know the exact location to find love because it found me at a local car lot. I thank God daily for His blessing of love. Not just His love but the love of my boo love. On September 21, he made me the happiest woman ever and here a little over a month later, the honey is still on the moon baby! 

Until next time guys....

Love,

Doc J

5 Days!!! Why

On yesterday the unthinkable happened. While on their way to church my baby sister and my niece were in an accident. My niece's mom called me hysterical because she had already arrived at church and was waiting on them. We had just gotten off the phone. My niece had to be airlifted to the hospital. My baby sister sustained some injuries and is recovering well. My niece is in critical condition and is fighting. She's progressing well. Tears fall occasionally because they are both blessed to be alive. Things could have been much worse and I'm forever grateful. But I have to ask why? Why now? Why ever? Those are my babies. I remember when both were born and brought home from the hospital. I was so happy when my step mom told us she was preggers with my baby sis. My other sibling were upset but that was because they were some spoiled brats lol. Just kidding. My niece made me a Tee Tee for the first time. She was my little poosha pie. I never try to question God's will but man. This is tough. I know that God will never put more on me than I can bare but Lord this is a bit much. I don't know why but I have to accept it. I feel guilty about the wedding now. I'm not as excited about it anymore. I know my family wants me to move forward but it's still difficult. One thing I can say that it further shows me how much I love and appreciate boo love. He has been my rock throughout all of this. He hasn't left my side since it all happened and I'm forever grateful. I am also blessed with some of the best friends EVER! You guys have been amazing. I thank each and every one of you for your phone calls, prayers, text messages, your offerings of  assistance, etc. I can't say thank you enough. We serve an awesome God and it's amazing the people he places in your path to help during difficult times. Despite it all I still praise God for sparing their life. I praise him for the continued progress in their prognosis. I praise God for all that He's done for our family during this time. He just continues to show up and show out. It's my prayer that God gets the glory in all of this. I know my God is able! Continue to keep us in your prayers and start praising him right now for all that he has done, is doing, and will do. Amen, Amen, and AMEN!


Doc J